Care of the self
> Some things are in our control and others not. Things in our control are opinion, pursuit, desire, aversion, and, in a word, whatever are our own actions. Things not in our control are body, property, reputation, command, and, in one word, whatever are not our own actions. | In our control | Outside our control | | ---------------------------------- | ------------------------------ | | Choosing how to act | How others judge the action | | Training our desires and aversions | Obtaining everything we desire | Desire belongs on the first side of the distinction. Training it takes practice: examine an impression before acting on it, and stop treating an uncertain outcome as something owed to us (§§2, 10, 34).Judgment and harm
In §5, distress depends on our judgment of an event. His claim that another person cannot harm us concerns our moral character (§§9, 30). Bodies can still be injured. > Duties are universally measured by relations. Our relations as children, siblings and citizens carry duties (§30). Tranquility therefore includes attending to how we act toward others. Source: [Epictetus, _Enchiridion_, translated by Elizabeth Carter](https://classics.mit.edu/Epictetus/epicench.html).